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Ever not had your mum on your side when you want your independence and your mobility officer's doing her best to prevent you getting it? Is your mobility officer so careful and too over-protective when you don't want to be wrapped in cotton wool?
Feel free to share your experiences guys, because I'm going through it right now.
I've come home from school and College permanently now, so I need some independence in my local area. We thought the local shop would be a good starting point for me, as i'd actually nearly cracked the route on my own a few years back, but, I'd reckoned without mum telling my new mobility officer stories about me when I was with the lady I had before her, so now, this mobility officer's under the impression I don't have any confidence in myself, or being out and about on my own, so she's left me to do the route on my own once or twice to get some awareness of roads and stuff, even though I used to wander round Loughborough on my own when I was at the Technical college there, and that is not a very easy place to get round. The route in to College also meant me crossing the main road where all the staff and students drive past to the car park, and that got incredibly busy at times, but I could do it. I could get myself to College and back, to Sainsbury's and back and too my hall of residence and back for god sakes. Mum's just so pissed me off that I'm hardly speaking to her at the moment. It's no good trying to talk to her about it either as she'll just say I'm arguing with her. My mobility officer also won't move on to the next stage if I don't. I have to ring her on Monday about orientation and getting round the building when I start Work Experience. I might have words then.
indipendence? um...now there's something i'll never get. lol!
well if you think like that you never will.And to the Aled fan have you ever thought that your parents have a really difficult job, can you imagine how frightening it is raising a blind child, its hard enough with 1 who can see, so give your parents ect a break, and stop behaving like an ungrateful petty childish brat.
Hmm, this is, or appears to be, quite simple.
I would try to not be so confrontational, go out with the orientation guy and just show how good or confident I was, if I picked up the route in no time and did the crossings confidently a few times the orientation guy would be on my side and help me convince my parents that everything was fine, they could even come along and watch to be sure that I was managing the route as well as I claimed I was and then they could let me go by myself without worrying so much.
Simply arguing with them, telling them I was good and they had no right worrying about me or by worrying about me they were putting me down, it wouldn't convince them and it would make me look like a little brat really.
So, if you feel so confident, dont be so worried, just allow them to be a bit partioric and over helpful until you can prove to them why you feel that you don't need that much help. If it takes a few days or a week that's fine, once you've convinced them you can manage one route it'll be easier to show you can manage more routes.
Cheers
-B
Agreed. If your parents are being over the top, it's only out of concern, and if the mobility officer is being overprotective, then it's because they haven't seen any reason to be otherwise as yet. Like you said, it's a tricky area and you've had some problems there in the past. Rather than telling them you can do it, show them you can, and that you're open to new routes and new methods. If they don't work for you, you can always go back to your preferred way of getting somewhere. It can't hurt to just do it their way to start with, right? If they see you can do it, they'll back off, and if they don't back off, well, jump off that bridge when you come to it.
As for me I hated Mobility! The teachers were always rude to me once they lost me on purpose and they locked me in a rest room! My Dad had to go and yell at them a few times! Now I don't like to use my cane at all! I know this will sound stupid but I just like to go sighted guide with my Mom! I mean I can use my cane a little bit! Like to go to the mail box! Thanks for reading my Mobility story!
what happens when Mum is no longer able to guide you, hmm? You'll be stuck in the house instead of fully independent, I'd hate that.
I'd hate that too. It's all sorted now anyway. I just had to go out on my own and do it. It wasn't even a route I wanted to learn, but my mobility officer said I needed to be aware of roads and stuf when I was certain I was already, having spent three years living almost independently in Loughborough when I attended the technical college there, so do forgive me if I sounded very childish and also bloody pissed off.
If you're not very confrontational with these thick bastards, how do you expect to get anywhere in life? Er, to cut a short story short, ha ha ha, you don't! end of.
If you're not very confrontational with these thick bastards, how do you expect to get anywhere in life? Er, to cut a short story short, ha ha ha, you don't! end of.
.. that was stupid, confrontations have never solved anything in my life and I've made it just fine and I know lots of other people who have done the same, being determined is one thing, being confrontational on purpose is totally different and may serve to harm you rather than the opposite.
well, i usually go sighted guide with mom or a friend in college. but i want to be independent so i can manage when i enter the workforce. that's why im living on campus so i can be able to solve my owm problems. my parents feel very frightened and sad.
so my councelor convinced them that when i graduate from college, i might live on my own and the rest of my family aggrees with that point.
so, they are not against that at all.
so, next fall, i will be living away from home on campus.
im at times very excited and scared at the same time.
I also, feel sad because im going to miss home.
I also feel confused.
i don't know if its because it is the first time im living on my own.
but what im finding is that some of the students are kinda protective alittle. but that's life anyway.
you don't always have to stick to what they want and expect from you sometimes.
so, i can't wait till september 3, 2006.
the official move in day.